Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.
Norman Vincent Peale

About Me

I am a 28 year old single mom of a 9 month old boy. He is my world and my life. Before I was pregnant I was in a very physically and emotionally abusive relationship. My son gave me the strenght to leave that man to create a good life for my child. My life has now become a matter of protecting my child to make sure the pattern of abuse does not get imposed on him so he is a "benefit to society" not a "menace to society". I am in the midst of a court battle for visitation and child support and it is taking all that I have to stay strong for my son. His father harasses me every chance he gets and is trying to take control back of my life and I won't let that happen. Please note I am not a counselor or psychologist; I am simply sharing what I have learned through my personal experience and time through counseling and groups to recover from abuse.



Tuesday, March 2, 2010
So I just wanted to say how FANTASTIC the olympics were...I have Olympic fever and now it is over...I am in withdrawal!! Canada did amazing and the crows at Vancouver were awesome...I am also very impressed with the Americans performance!!!

So I wanted to do a post on dealing with loneliness after leaving an abusive relationship. It is difficult to be on your own, especially when you are dealing with the consequences of the abuse you suffered and are trying to heal from it. I want to offer some suggestions of ways you can help deal with the loneliness so that it does not overtake you!

1. Get a pet - a cat or a dog are great companions and are always there for you! Personally, i have a dog (he does live with my parents though long story) and i just adopted a wonderful cat "buddy"!

2. Volunteering. This is not only a great way to get out and get your mind off things, but you can also meet some inspiring people who could change your life forever.

3. Check out the website This website offers support groups and local hobby clubs like a book club or scrap booking. Having hobbies and meeting people with similar interests is a great way to move on and to bring joy and happiness back into your life.

These are just a few ways to help deal with loneliness and to move on. Dealing with the grief of leaving an abusive relationship is difficult and a process - it does not happen overnight. But, getting out there, meeting new people, having companionship and taking up a hobby is a great way to relieve the heart ache, stress and to get your mind of things...Personally, I love to dig into a good movie. A few weeks back I rented Transformers (I know kind a cheesey but it reminds me of being a kid..I loved transformers growing up) and I sunk into the 2.5 hour movie and forgot about my life and my stresses. I felt great afterwards and it was a nice break from the reality of what i have been through!


Anonymous said...

I finally took a yoga class after wanting to for years and years, and I'm amazed at how it has helped my stress level. I specifically took a hot yoga class, so I highly recommend that style, but probably any yoga class would help. Very interesting way of dealing with the stresses of life, but its helping me so I thought I'd share.

abusemom81 said...

Yoga is a great idea. Another one I was thinking about is meditation it is great for relieving stress

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