Raising Awareness About Abuse and Narcissism

If you are coming to my blog and are trapped in an abusive relationship you may find this post helpful. I want to touch base on the reasons that a woman will stay in an abusive relationship. If you are (or have just left one) you most likely have felt these emotions. They are very valid concerns and feelings; but please don't blame yourself, don't be ashamed and take action to get your life back.

Women will typically stay in an abusive relationship for the following reasons:

1. FEAR - She is scared she may lose her children, for her and her childrens safety, and the most difficult fear of the unknown! We are all afraid of the unknown.

2. SHAME - Women who are or have been abused generally feel embarassed and ashamed of what has happened to her. Please do not feel ashamed, it is not your fault and you are amongst millions and millions of other women who have or are in the same situation as you.

3. ISOLATION - A technique of an abuser is to isolate his victim. Therefore a women in this situation may remain because she has little access to support, any attempts she has made to leave or get help were sabatoged by her partner and her partners isolation has created a dependency on him.

4. HELPLESSNESS - An abused women sees her partner has having all the power and her having none. She believes she is worthless and can't do better so she stays in that relationship because "she deserves it!". She has a lack of control over her own life and any prior attempt was unsuccessful so why try.

These are only some of the reasons a women may stay in an abusive relationship, but ones that I felt are feelings and thoughts that most abused women have. If you are blaming yourself for not leaving earlier, or if you are trapped in a relationship please know that you are not alone, there is a lot of support out there for you and you can take that step and get your life back. It is a challenge, but one that is easier than staying and being abused!